Mental health pill? Take some courage

A friend of mine who is in the dating world had an insight for me (she is 30 and looking for someone to share her life with):

* A majority of people she meets are taking medication for depression or anxiety

These are young people who range from 24 to 35, are working, are educated but...

but are not doing very well.

It's all about courage. You are old enough to have some experience in the world and some insight into what is ahead and that does not inspire you. Yikes.

You see people miserable in their jobs; miserable in their relationships; acting immorally at work; treating themselves and others with a lack of dignity and respect; and stuck in circumstances that they do not like. And you wonder, is that what I have to look forward to?

Like my younger clients you have been waiting for some event to happen to catapult yourself into "it"; into life; into what you really want to be doing; into something different. The bad news is that that "it" is not going to happen and if it does it may well fall into the category of "be careful what you ask for".

Maybe "you should go see somebody", get some medication, and dull those feelings. Do you really think that will help?

Here is an alternative solution.

Be courageous. Do not fall into the category of people who viagra their way to a solution. There is no pill that will make that feeling go away. But good old fashioned courage will help.

The Real You is in there and wants to come and play. You are not crazy (every single one of my clients comes and says "I think I am crazy. I have this voice that is really negative."). You are trapped and the way to get un-trapped is to be courageous and start listening to the Real You. The crappy feelings are there because you are not taking good care of it.

Here are some steps to take:

1. Choose to have a positive attitude today

2. Write down one exciting thing you want to make happen in your life

3. Ask someone one exciting thing they want to make happen in their life

4. Remember your choice to have a positive attitude today

5. Do one courageous thing

6. Repeat. Now. And then tomorrow.

You are in control of your life. Do not rely on pills or external circumstances. Take life by the balls and make a powerful choice right now.

The Real You is in there and desperately wants to come play.